Stop feeling behind: The Gap & The Gain mindset that builds confidence (and momentum) instantly


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Celebrate How Far You Have Come

Welcome back to Fuel Your Mind — your weekly spark for personal growth and sharper thinking.

Each issue delivers:

  • 10 powerful ideas to challenge your mindset
  • Curated content to inspire action
  • Practical tools to help you become your best self

Every ambitious person wrestles with this mental trap:

You measure your progress by how far you are from the ideal.

You look at the gap or the distance between where you are now and the moving horizon of perfection.

That horizon will always move.

And when you measure against the ideal, you will always feel behind.

The alternative? The gain or the distance between where you started and where you are today.

  • The gap creates anxiety.
  • The gain creates confidence.

One drains your momentum. The other builds it.

You will never feel like you’re “there” if you only measure forward.

So today, pause. Turn around. Look at the trail you have already climbed.

You are further along than you think. And you are closer than you feel.


Top 10 Ideas of the Week

The Gap and the Gain

Here’s your weekly spark to think deeper, act smarter, and grow stronger:

1. Your brain will always project a new, better version of success.

→ 📖 Read: Why You Should Change Your Focus from Perfection to Excellence

2. Progress feels invisible while you are making it, but it doesn't mean it is not happening.

→ 📖 Read: 15 of the Most Powerful Life Lessons We Must Learn

3. The ideal is a thief that steals joy through comparison.

→ 📖 Read: When You Compare Yourself to Others You Sabotage Your Success

4. Goals motivate, while gratitude stabilizes.

→ 📖 Read: The Science of Gratitude and How It Can Affect the Brain

5. Stop asking "how far to go?" and start asking "how far have I come?"

→ 🎥 Watch: The Progress Principle

6. Don't chase endless versions of better.

→ 🎥 Watch: Why Ambitious People Feel Behind

7. When you measure backward, you build momentum.

→ 📖 Read: This is How to Build Your Confidence

8. Growth is exponential, but it is only visible in hindsight.

→ 📖 Read: How to Get More from Less in Every Area of Your Life

9. You are not behind, but you are becoming.

→ 🎥 Watch: How to Be 10X Happier with Your Life

10. You win when you improve your baseline, not your fantasy.

→ 📖 Read: 5 Hard Truths About Change You Should Know


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Featured Content

Rewire How You Measure Progress

Most people measure progress in the most discouraging way possible:

Backward.

They compare today to a fantasy:

The perfect job, body, income, status, audience, and relationship.

That fantasy grows the moment you get closer.

It’s like chasing the horizon. Take one step forward… and it takes one step forward too.

That’s the gap.

High achievers live there (and they suffer for it).

The gain is different.

You turn around and measure backward:

  • Who were you 12 months ago?
  • What do you know now that you didn’t then?
  • What habits are stronger?
  • What problems are you no longer dealing with?
  • What risks have you taken?
  • What did you survive?

Progress is not loud. It’s quietly stacking beneath you.

When you measure backward, you:

  • Build your confidence
  • Reduce your anxiety
  • Improve your motivation
  • Strengthen your identity

Try this exercise today:

Write down 10 things you have improved since last year.

Your brain will resist at first. Then it will flood you with proof that you are winning.

When you measure backward, you realize something very powerful.

You are not who you used to be.

And tomorrow, you won’t be who you are today.

👉 Watch: How Small Habits Lead to Big Changes


Featured Resource

Book: The Gap and the Gain by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin Hardy

This book will punch your perfectionism in the mouth (in the best way possible).

It teaches you how to:

  • Stop chasing ideals
  • Measure progress backward
  • Build internal confidence
  • Enjoy growth while pursuing it

Why this book matters:

  • You’ll feel less behind
  • You’ll improve faster
  • You’ll stay motivated longer
  • You’ll enjoy the journey, not just the destination

High achievers need this mental shift more than beginners.

👉 Get The Gap and the Gain on Amazon


Resource Corner

Tools to Recognize the Gains You’re Making

Whether you're here to grow, reflect, or sharpen your mindset, here are a few resources to fuel the journey:

🎯 Take AI Skills Quiz → Benchmark where you’ve grown with AI.

📘 Download Free Writing eBook → Track your creative gain over time.

📕 Buy the 251 Ideas Book → One daily idea = compounding perspective.

📺 Watch Knowledge Enthusiast on YouTube → Gain clarity in 3 minutes or less.

📝 Read Knowledge Enthusiast Blog → Stack wisdom. Notice your progress.


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Until Next Time

Measure Backward to Move Forward

The quickest way to kill your motivation is to measure your life against an ideal that keeps moving.

You will never catch it.

Why? It’s designed to stay out of reach.

But when you measure yourself against who you used to be?

Motivation pours gasoline on your progress.

  • You’ve grown.
  • You’ve learned.
  • You’ve survived things that you couldn’t handle in the old days.
  • You’ve built skills you once didn’t have.
  • You carry scars that prove you showed up.

Remember this: You’re not behind. You’re becoming.

So stop staring at the fantasy in front of you and look at the evidence behind you.

Progress is not about perfection. It is all about evolution.

Acknowledge the climb. Honor the distance.

Then take one more step. Keep going. Keep growing.

The gain is already happening.

Until next Sunday,

Matthew Royse

Editor, Fuel Your Mind & Creator, Knowledge Enthusiast


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